What “Sex and the City” Taught Me

       I recently finished all six seasons of Sex and the City and as I was sitting in my room crying my eyes out as Carrie and Big finally united on the streets of Paris, I realized how many life lessons I have learned from the women on this show. I can credit Carrie, Charlotte, Miranda, and Samantha with teaching me the importance of sisterhood and femininity.

   Carrie taught me that you aren’t defined by your sexuality, but you also shouldn’t be ashamed of it. The way Carrie turned her self-discovery into journalism inspires me endlessly and I always find myself channeling her while I’m writing. Carrie never let herself be arm candy. She always made sure that people were aware of who she was and what she did. She was also so determined. Whether it was Mr. Big’s heart or a new pair of Manolo Blahniks, she always knew exactly how to get what she wanted. I can easily call Carrie Bradshaw a fashion icon, the older sister I never had and the woman I aspire to become.


   Charlotte taught me that there are bravery and solidarity in being soft. Charlotte was classy, effortless, and polite. Charlotte was always the most understanding and comforting yet she was solid in her ways. She learned that she couldn’t compromise just to get what she believed she wanted and she never let go of that lesson. She just wanted everyone around her to be happy even if it meant her happiness came second.


   Miranda is a feminist icon if you didn’t already know that. She most definitely did not need no mans! She never let go of her desire to be successful no matter what was going on around her. She was always shamed for her high standards when it came to men, but I applaud her for that. A woman should never settle for anything less than what she thinks she deserves and Miranda knew that. She didn’t have any time to waste on shitty men and she never let anybody forget it.


   Lastly, there is Samantha Jones. It’s hard to put into words how relevant Samantha is to me and to all women today. Samantha taught me girl power, self-love and the importance of speaking up for yourself. Even if you have never seen Sex and the City, I’m pretty sure you have seen gifs and posts that quote her always wise words. She was a firecracker and everyone around her knew it, so they handled her like one. She put slut shamers to rest at any time or place and I couldn’t be more grateful for it. I always appreciated her relationship with Carrie the most, because of the way she could give her sappy sisterly advice while still sounding like a badass. I cannot express my appreciation for Samantha Jones enough.

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   I can genuinely say that these four women have helped me become the person I am today, because of the different lessons I learned from all of them. If you have not experienced this show, I highly recommend you do.



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